Suffering....

Suffering,  the word itself denotes a vast range of emotional response to situataions in life. It is entirely to do with feelings,suffering is always felt..experienced. The worse part is that only the one who suffers can feel it..no amount of words or talks can put u in the shoes of the person who is suffering.however much i say that i understand but the fact remains that i cannot really feel wht u r feeling.

Rule 1..take one at a time..do not try to solve all ur problems at once say for eg.u have problem with ur wife,ur parents.ur children ,your boss and ur colleagues...now out of this pick up the problem which is the least important but it is still a problem...say its with ur mom...so ur target is that leat problem with ur mom.

Rule 2..set a time frame.set a rigid time frame...say a week...once u have done dat...focus fully on that one problem

Rule 3...most of the times it is about other peoples expectation...if there is a communication gap...many a times we are misunderstood or we on our own misunderstand the other person...so take out time to find out wht is the crux of the problem.is it u? give it a shot...step into the other persons shoes and see if u cud be the reason for the problem..if yes...is that reason correctable..if yes then correct it..not suddenly but slow and steady one step at a time and see the response of the other person....things should change..but if the problem is with the other person and u want the other person to change...u need to say it clearly to the other person...if the situation is beyond repair then leave it..
Now the next suffering and use the same...dont try to fight the battle unarmed ...strategise and work on it....change urself ...change the way u feel about things...look at what u have got...and wht others dont have...u have the HEALTH...which many ppl would not be having despite having wealth ,love of the family etc...suffering is a feeling...and u can always change or work on the way u feel....